Men suffer too.
We are always talking about how women shouldn’t be forced to look a certain way, behave in a certain manner or talk like a lady. It’s true that they shouldn’t and they should be allowed to do what they want to. Models, actresses and of course how can I forget the Kardashians have all set like the benchmark making all women want to look like them. And then later somewhere someone talks about you being you and you do not need to be Kylie to be appreciated. But nobody talks about men. Nobody talks about how they too are expected to look a certain way. Therefore, I’m going to speak about them because you know I always want to bring into the light whatever I feel is neglected. There are perfect men described in literature and all our girlie magazines, there are perfect men embodied in movies, art and TV shows. And even in the modelling field where some take illegal substances and what not to enhance their bodies and images even further. Amidst all this what is a conventional boy supposed to do when he has no role models to look up to whom women find attractive, who isn’t stereotyped as the comic relief and who can be wanted by the female lead? It is difficult for guys too and sometimes and sometimes I think about how people only assume women have that problem and the discussion cannot be inclusive of all genders. We are in this phase that we assume bad things happen to only one gender. I think there are women who have extremely high standards about men as well. Like I mean I understand we girls have grown up imagining we’ll find our Troy Bolton and keep looking for that even if we know we aren’t Gabriella Montez. I am not asking you to settle for less but when I say less I’m talking about the way the person makes you feel not the way the person looks. And I think that’s what is going to be important at the end of the day.